Sometimes, we are unable to stick with our self-care practices. For whatever reason - life changes, sickness, boredom, depression, new relationships - stepping away can provide an opportunity to reframe our unique individual needs and return to practice with tools that align with our current inner self.

During grad school, I struggled with self-care when many of my strategies and tools were no longer possible. It was impactful. My anxiety went up, and my self-esteem went down.  One of these was using essential oils and aromatherapy.  Scent is a powerful tool which connects with memories, emotions and body sensations. I found a lot of comfort in certain scents, and I also found a lot of relief from regular headaches and migraines.

Being the people pleaser that I am, I bent over backwards to accommodate this change. I went all in. I avoided essential oils, especially if I had class the next day. I no longer went into stores that had essential oils being diffused. I even changed my hygiene routine!

It took me some time to recognize how distressed I was, how I often sacrifice my needs for others, and how frayed my boundaries were. I am grateful for the experience as it helped me realize that I allowed my boundaries to be hacked, openly and willingly.

Finding the balance between what others needed and learning to be ok with putting myself first is an ongoing learning process. It takes courage and practice. It is the ultimate balance of your needs and the needs of others.

I can now say that I am embracing essential oils and aromatherapy again. This time, on my own terms, and being mindful of choosing who influences my decisions and who doesn’t. We all have to make adjustments and tweaks from time to time. For me, what has been most important has been rediscovering my boundaries and beginning to find my authentic voice.

Until next time,

- Bethany